I don’t understand why everyone gets soooo worked up about Valentine’s Day. Suddenly everyone is all “woe is me. I’m single therefore I must be depressed as well.” WTF seriously wat does being single have to do with my happiness? I love myself enough not to settle for something less than what i deserve… so why should I be unhappy? And honestly I don’t think anyone my age understands what love is anyways. I know it sounds awful and like I’m dissing my generation but I’m not. I just think it’s stupid to be getting married when you are just barely starting to find out who you really are (if you don’t even know who you are how can you possibly know who they are) plus don’t kid yourself you can’t even financially support yourself let alone you and someone else but if you think you found love already good for you! I can’t judge. Why would I say that right after stating we don’t understand love? Because we never will understand love that’s why it’s so amazing. No one from the outside can understand what’s going on between two people. Even if you were there for every interaction you can’t observe emotions that people experience. But here’s where I think people get it wrong when they think they understand love. I have a simple formula that defines something so impossible to define. Lust+Laughter+Loyalty=Love I know stupid but it’s true. Think about it.
Why do we pursue people? We lust after them and I’m not just talking about physical things. I mean let’s be honest. Who hasn’t listened to someone talk about their passion and thought my goodness I want them. We can lust after any trait of a person. Whatever it is it’s what drew you to that person. So eventually if you both are lusting after each other you end up in some sort of relationship. Sadly, eventually, lust goes away. Honeymoons over. That one sparkle we used to find so intriguing has become common. Regular. It doesn’t sparkle like we remember it did. But that doesn’t mean the relationship is over.
This is where laughter comes into play. You still have fun. You still laugh with them. You enjoy being around them. Corny I know but this is where they go from just being a lover (I’m not saying everyone does “it” but you get the general idea) to your best friend.
But what happens when you have nothing to laugh about? What happens when things aren’t going right? When you are no longer swimming but sinking? What happens when you are suffocating? Life isn’t peachy keen all the time. Sorry doesn’t happen. Fairy tales aren’t real. This is where you find out if its love. Loyalty. This is when temptation is everywhere. guys start to wonder…. If I was with someone else would I be happier? Do you think if I cheated they would ever find out? Is this all really worth it? This is where you find out what your relationship is really made of. Love isn’t this magically feeling. It’s a constant conscience action. I was reading a magazine (I know dumbest thing to read and get information from but come on… I was doing research for modeling…. That’s my story and I’m sticking to it) and it had a quote from an older lady. She was asked how did she and her husband stay together for so long? Her reply was “we never fell out of love at the same time.” Just because you briefly experience some turmoil doesn’t mean that it isn’t love. If we define everything as black and white we can say people are NEVER happy NEVER grateful NEVER good because of ONE experience but that’s not true. Not true at all. People fall. Were only human. But without these experiences we wouldn’t know the difference between the good and the bad. If all you ever experienced with someone was the good you never would learn to appreciate those amazing moments. You can make any relationship work. Now take a moment to notice the last word of that sentence. Work. That is what you are going to need to make it. People have become so lazy in recent years. It’s sad to watch people let love die because they don’t value it enough to give it as much time as stupid things like a job or hobby. People let families and children fall between the cracks. They go in with unrealistic expectations that once you find love it will be perfect from that moment on. Love is so much better than that because it will give you more than one perfect moment. It gives you one after ever difficult time in your life.
Love is Lust in the Sun. Love is Laughing in the Rain. Love is Loyalty through the Storm. Love is beautiful. I can’t even define it haha and just because I haven’t found it yet doesn’t mean I can’t celebrate Valentine’s Day. I can celebrate the lessons I have learned from the relationships that haven’t worked out. I can celebrate this wonderful devotion that so many wonderful people have found and the idea that someday I will too. I can celebrate all the wonderful love me and my friends have.
People quote this verse all the time but they don’t read the whole thing… its soooo much better if you read the WHOLE thing… cheaters
1 Corinthians 13
1If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal.
2If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing.
3If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames,[b] but have not love, I gain nothing.
4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.
9For we know in part and we prophesy in part,
10but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears.
11When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me.
12Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.
13And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
I hope everyone knows how much I love them! You are all my valentines ;]
XO with <3
K
